Who Let Me In? – The Truth About Imposter Syndrome
- Paul Andrews - CEO Family Business United
- 12 hours ago
- 2 min read

“Any moment now, someone’s going to realise I’ve got no idea what I’m doing.” If that sentence sounds painfully familiar, welcome to the club. It’s not exclusive – quite the opposite. From students to CEOs, seasoned creatives to newly promoted managers, millions live with a quiet, persistent fear that they’re a fraud. Despite qualifications, promotions, praise or achievements, they worry they’re just winging it – and sooner or later, they’ll be found out. This psychological pattern has a name: imposter syndrome.
First coined in the 1970s by psychologists Pauline Clance and Suzanne Imes, imposter syndrome originally described high-achieving women who struggled to internalise their success. Since then, research has revealed that it affects people across genders, backgrounds and industries. And in today’s high-pressure, hyper-visible world, it’s become a common undercurrent in many of our lives.
But what exactly is imposter syndrome? At its core, it’s a deep belief that your accomplishments aren’t earned, but rather the result of luck, timing or simply fooling others. You may discount compliments, overwork to “prove” your worth, or avoid opportunities for fear of being “exposed”. All the while, a nagging voice inside insists: You don’t belong here.
It’s worth noting that imposter syndrome isn’t an official psychiatric diagnosis. It’s not a mental illness, but a well-documented and recognisable pattern of thinking. In fact, it can coexist with high competence and ambition – which is why it often shows up in high performers. Paradoxically, the more you achieve, the louder that inner critic can become.
Social media hasn’t helped. When we’re constantly scrolling through curated snapshots of others’ lives and careers, it’s easy to fall into the comparison trap. Online, everyone seems more confident, more accomplished, more deserving. But behind those polished LinkedIn updates and glamorous Instagram reels, many of us are quietly battling self-doubt.
So what can be done? The first step is naming it. Acknowledging that you’re experiencing imposter feelings – and that they’re incredibly common – can be freeing. You’re not alone, and you’re not broken. In fact, imposter syndrome might just mean you’re growing, stretching, learning – all signs of someone who cares deeply about their work.
Talking about it helps too. Sharing your feelings with trusted friends, mentors or colleagues can break the illusion that everyone else has it all figured out. More often than not, they’ll respond with, “You feel that too?” And just like that, the power of imposter syndrome begins to shrink.
It’s also helpful to keep a “praise folder” – a collection of kind emails, positive feedback, achievements or moments of pride. When that self-doubt creeps in, revisit it. Let the evidence speak louder than your inner critic.
Ultimately, imposter syndrome thrives in silence and shame. But when we bring it into the open – when we speak about it, laugh about it, and challenge it – we loosen its grip. Confidence isn’t about never feeling like a fraud. It’s about learning to keep going anyway, trusting that who you are and what you bring to the table is more than enough.
And if you’re still wondering whether you belong? You do. The door didn’t open by mistake. You’re here for a reason.